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2012 MASO Strides - Thanks to Our Supporters

Posted by MASO on December 28, 2012 at 12:35 AM Comments comments (0)

Wow it is amazing how fast this year flew by. We are so focused on where we want to be as an organization, we sometimes forget how far we have come.


Our organization started out by accident in the attempts by a few mothers trying to solve their own challenges with domestic abuse issues in Massachusetts. In our search for answers and solutions, we began helping other parents in healing and advocacy. As time went on we began realizing there is abigger picture to the problem and began collecting data for statistics and writing about healing, publishing research articles on health consequences to abuse, and before we knew it, the organization took on a life of its own without any agenda except to figure out “why me”. We began to hear and see the evidence of countless cases of mothers losing custody to “documented” abusers.  Some of these abusers were on the sex offender registry and some had countless medical documentations of child sex abuse that was ignored by the family courts.


In searching for answers to our own cases, we began seeing a biggercalling into finding the solutions to this epidemic. Yes epidemic. Until we went through our own cases, we were blinded to the severity of the injustices victims faced every day as well as blinded by the falsity that the current laws on the books would protect us and our children and failed.


The year is 2006, and our founders were faced with the scary decision to finally leave an abuser and to protect their children. The amount of courage it took to first admit that you are not to blame for everything wrong … admit you are a victim of abuse … to admit you did not deserve the abuse … was quite scary. Some of us even begged the police departments to not prosecute our abusers.  One didn’t for several reasons at the time … Fear of financial ability to support the children if convicted and secondly a statement that was said that may sound familiar to victims currently being abused or victims who may have recently left … “He is gone. I do not want to prosecute, because I do not want to hurt him.”  Completely disregarding the abuser not only physically, emotionally, psychologically, and financially hurt you but the children. It is a statement, many victims make whether to themselves or out loud.   This is because of the gaslighting tactics many abusers do to strip the victim of any confidence, clarity, and free thinking. It takes time, with lots of support, help and healing to see the truth. However, in all these cases of abuse, the system failed to protect.


Here are some troubling statistics/facts in Massachusetts:

  • Just in the last ten years alone, child abuse has doubled in the State of Massachusetts while funding to services and protections to victims of abuse have been slashed.
  • The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $5.8 billion each year, $4.1 billion of which is for direct medical and mental health services.
  • There were fifteen victims of domestic homicide in only the first half of 2006, which was equal to the total killed in 2005
  • One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
  • One in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape.
  • Batterers will gain custody of the children 70% of the time in Family Court. (Ass. Of Judges)
  • 2004 Study by Harvard University states, Family Courts in Massachusetts are failing victims of abuse and their children.
  • Judge James Menno of Plymouth/Brockton Family Court has rendered some very troubling custody decisions in abuse cases and yet, he was the key note speaker the Fatherhood Coalition for incarcerated fathers on how to gain visitation and custody of their children in 2007.


Learning about the severity of the problem in Massachusetts when we have young children at stake, empowered these parents to want to do more.


In an indirect approach, by focusing on the “other” cases for the answers, we were contacted by a local movie producer and a 20/20 reporter. At the time we were working with 13 cases that had too many coincidences in regards to the injustices to victims of abuse.


Even though nothing has yet to materialize as a result of those contacts, it gave us the direction we needed. By talking about our own personal cases, we were talking on deaf ears, but talking about numerous cases, now over 20, we solicited a response. We knew we were on the right path.  To this day, we continue to march on with the research we are doing in this area and learning patience along the way.

 

The healing process also took on a life of its own. In searching for healing from abuse, these parents found ourselves healing others.  One of them even discovered holistic methods of healing that helped escalate the healing process. This drove the need to look into “why” “how” and ultimately over time began doing various sessions for various domestic abuse groups with positive affirmations the impact these modalities can have in healing trauma or abuse.


One of our volunteers even wrote about the ABC’s of healing from abuse and trauma. We grew so big, but no place to call home, became a little scary, but knew those we are trying to help needed us and their need for us to help them gave us a motivation and calling.

 

In Jan 2011, we decided to offer our first meeting and were grateful to have renowned legal expert Wendy Murphy as our key note speaker for the evening talking about the legal system and abuse. We had advocates from various organizations,victims of abuse, and lawyers. It was a huge success. Wendy was amazing as usual and she also loved what we were trying to accomplish in our research and healing. With kind words of encouragement and wisdom, we took the leap of faith and moved the next step forward into forming into an official organization. We are grateful to Wendy for giving us the courage to move ahead.


We moved into our office space in June 2012 and started out of the gate with twelve interns with backgrounds ranging from business, economics, web,design, women and gender studies, psychology, sociology and law.


We became listed as a non-profit in Massachusetts. We created our mission statement and other organization formalities including a logo and branding. We created a https://www.facebook.com/MassachusettsSurvivorsOutreach" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">facebook and https://twitter.com/M_A_S_O" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">twitter accounts and set up a website.


We partook in the legislative processes and rally surrounding Melissa’s Bill in July 2012 as well as several other pending bills with seven other non-profit organizations, lawyers, and legislatures.


We continued our research in the injustices victims of abuse are faced with in the state of Massachusetts and still working on this data as we speak.


We resumed our healing services in September offering a variety of healing services and classes including coaching, meditation, energy medicine, stress reduction, reiki, holistic health counseling.


In October, we launched a community awareness initiative in support of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and held three seminars on Gaslighting abuse, Recognizing whether it is abuse or just an argument, and Holistic healing for victims of abuse. 


We have partnered and collaborated with other organizations of issues. We have engaged local leadership and other local organizations for support and allegiance. We have written about reiki on “Reiki can do no harm or can it”, regarding the election process, Commentary on Sandy Hook Tragedy, and we have a few more pending that we are working on.


Considering where we were six months ago and what we have accomplished, we have done so much and have come a far way.


We are an organization of action as we believe that actions speak much louder than words. We still have a long way to go, and we are extremely grateful to all our supporters who have helped us get to where we are today. Our plea to you, is to help us get to the next phase in our journey of helping others, especially all our children who rarely have a voice in issues around abuse.

Please take a look at our 2013 Pending projects to see if you can helpout, or volunteer and as always donations are greatly needed and appreciated.

 

2013 Pending Projects

Posted by MASO on December 27, 2012 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (1)

We have a few projects we would love to launch in 2013 in addition to what we are currently doing, but in order for them to materialize, we need your help. Massachusetts Survivors Outreach currently operates with 100% volunteers and with 100% community donations. We are asking that if you cannot assist us financially, you ask if you can assist in volunteering either for general operations or in assisting in launching and/or organizing any one of the following projects/events:


1.     Million March Against Child Abuse – This is a nationwide event taking place in various cities. Details still coming in. We are participating and need help rallying and organizing a team and donations for this event.


2.     Tenth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference and Mothers of Lost Children in May 2013– We are in need of acquiring assistance to help get our leaders to attend this conference to represent the countless voices of Mothers who have lost custody due to injustices in the family court system. We are in need of a volunteer to help solicit corporate donors to help pay for the trip.


3.     Child Victims ofFamily Court – Study on the broken system failing to protect our children from perpetrators and abusers in the state of Massachusetts. The study will be based on current research in conjunction with a survey of college students who may have been victims of abuse. The goal of this project is to get the child victims voices heard and to find out the extent of the problem so we can find solutions to correcting these injustices. We are in need of organizers, planners, researchers, and fiscal sponsors for this project to move forward. This will be the first in the nation addressing the issues in the manner in which this project will do and have yield the kind of results we need to finally create the kind of change we need to protect our children.


4.     The links of certain health ailments and abuse and treatments and/or therapies yielding positive results in healing. There are a few projects that unfortunately we can not reveal the specific details due to the sensitivity of the projects. We are in need of a fiscal sponsor and volunteers. The research we are looking at doing can change the way the medical community looks and treats certain medical conditions upon diagnosis as well as solicit their involvement into policy changes in the way domestic abuse is handled in family courts by addressing the stigmas and injustices and health consequences. It also has the potential to yield the results we suspect at the links between abuse and certain health issues – both at epidemic levels.


5.     Socioecomomic tolls to ignoring abuse – already started, need researchers, writers, and fiscal sponsors.


If you would like to be involved in any of these projects, please email usat maso.ma.dv@gmail.com or call us at 617-890-1040 for an application.

 

MASO's Thoughts on Tomorrow's Election

Posted by MASO on November 5, 2012 at 7:40 AM Comments comments (0)

By: MASO Staff November, 5, 2012

 

Tomorrow is an important and possibly a historic election day.

 

When going to the voting booth tomorrow, we at MASO, ask you not to vote by the party lines but by the deeds of the candidate you are voting for. Please make sure to consider voting for a candidate who has worked or will work to protect children and victims of abuse.

 

Yes ... the economy is greatly important, and the current study we are working on will prove that if you want to fix the economy so drastic cuts are not made to programs such as Medicare ... so the deficit will balance out ... and social welfare programs will be reduced not by cuts but by fixing the way Family Court handles domestic abuse cases in the courtroom which is bankrupting this country.

 

We must change the culture of abuse. How do we do that? It starts by who we elect.

 

Choose a candidate who does not minimize or normalize abuse as many in our society do including family court judges. A couple years ago, when Jeff Perry was running for Congress, there was a huge controversy over his alleged involvement with his officer sexually assaulting a young 14 year old girl.

 

We heard many decent bystanders say things like "well it happened 20 years ago, things change." Our argument is this "If it were your daughter, would you still be voting for this man?" ... We guarantee NOT. People like Perry would be making decisions on issues such as VAWA, and other protections for children and victims of abuse.

 

If you have not seen the interview with the Family Court Judge Salcido of California with FOX News LA, it is a must watch before you vote. "Children Lost In System" is a series of news stories by FOX LA and the interview of the whistleblower former Family Court Judge Salcido. Judge Salcido speaks out admitting she made a mistake and speaks out about the million dollar industry of how abused mothers and children in Family Court by default are to give abusers custody.

 

YOUR VOTE COUNTS .... WHY?

 

Survivors of abuse, especially children, often have difficulty accessing health care, healing services, economic assistance, affordable housing, and especially the legal help to protect and advocate for them against abuse.

 

The economic consequences of not safeguarding our children and victims against abuse in our society cause devastation costing us much more every day than the cost of working to prevent them and to support victims and their children.

 

Who we elect matters. Our elected officials make daily decisions about various policies and funding priorities that affect the welfare, safety, dignity and liberty of all victims of abuse including our most vulnerable, our children.

 

MASSACHUSETTS SNAPSHOT ABOUT ABUSE:

  •  In 2010, nearly 1 in 2 women and 1 in 4 men in MA have ever experienced sexual violence victimization other than rape. *
  • Nearly 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men in MA have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lives. * 
  • More than 1 in 7 women have experienced rape.
  • Reported child abuse has doubled in Massachusetts in last 10 years since Gov. Duval Patrick has been in office.
  • Eleven percent (11%) of high school students and six percent (6%) of middle school students reported being physically hurt by a date sometime in their life.*
  • Nearly, 7.8 million women in the U.S. have been raped by an intimate partner at some point in their lives. *
  • 201,394 women in the U.S. are raped by an intimate partner every year.* 
  • Economic costs of intimate partner violence exceeds $5.8 Billion each year, $4.1 Billion for direct medical and mental health services every year.** 
  • 56% report being late for work due to tactics by batterers.***

 

Ask yourself how a candidate's positions will have an impact on the safety, dignity and liberty of all victims of abuse ... especially our children who rarely have a voice.

 

According to Protect Mass Children, the following Legislators STRONGLY and CONSISTANTLY support child protection legislation****:

  1. Senate Minority Leader Bruce Tarr
  2. Senator Sal DiDomenico
  3. Senator Robert Hedlund
  4. Senator Brian Joyce
  5. Senator John Keenan
  6. Senator Michael Knapik
  7. Senator Richard Ross
  8. House Minority Leader Bradley Jones
  9. Representative Paul Adams
  10. Representative Donald Wong 
  11. Representative Jay Barrows
  12. Representative Richard Bastien
  13. Representative Carlo Bastile
  14. Representative Matthew Beaton
  15. Representative Nick Collins
  16. Representative Edward Coppinger 
  17. Representative Linda E Dean Campbell
  18. Representative Geoff Diehl
  19. Representative James Dwyer
  20. Representative Paul Frost
  21. Representative Kevin Kuros
  22. Representative Steven Levy
  23. Representative Marc Lombardo
  24. Representative Shaunna O'Connell
  25. Representative George Peterson
  26. Representative Elizabeth Poirer
  27. Representative George Ross
  28. Representative Joyce Spiliotis
  29. Representative Daniel Webster

 

The following Legislators were polled and supported some legislation and assisted with the sponsorship of Bill to eliminate statute of limitations for child sex abuse. NOTE: Senators listed are original sponsors, but due to lack of resources, the Senate was not polled after initial sponsorship for support:

  1. Representative Adams, Paul (R)
  2. Representative Andrews, Denise (D)
  3. Representative Arciero, James (D)
  4. Representative Ashe, Brian (D)
  5. Representative Atkins, Cory (D)
  6. Representative Ayers, Bruce (D)
  7. Representative Balser, Ruth (D)
  8. Representative Barrows, F. (R)
  9. Representative Basile, Carlo (D)
  10. Representative Beaton, Matthew (R)
  11. Representative Benson, Jennifer (D)
  12. Representative Binienda, John (D)
  13. Representative Bradley, Garrett (D)
  14. Representative Brady, Michael (D)
  15. Representative Cabral, Antonio (D)
  16. Representative Calter, Thomas (D)
  17. Representative Campbell, Linda Dean (D)
  18. Representative Canavan, Christine (D)
  19. Representative Cariddi, Gailanne (D)
  20. Representative Chan, Tackey (D)
  21. Representative Coakley-Rivera, Cheryl (D)
  22. Representative Conroy, Thomas (D)
  23. Representative Coppinger, Edward (D)
  24. Representative Cusack, Mark (D)
  25. Representative D'Emilia, Angelo (R)
  26. Representative deMacedo, Viriato (R)
  27. Representative Dempsey, Brian (D)
  28. Representative Devers, Marcos (D)
  29. Representative Diehl, Geoff (R)
  30. Representative DiNatale, Stephen (D)
  31. Representative Durant, Peter (R)
  32. Representative Dwyer, James (D)
  33. Representative Ehrlich, Lori (D)
  34. Representative Farley-Bouvier, Tricia (D)
  35. Representative Fattman, Ryan (R)
  36. Representative Ferguson, Kimberly (R)
  37. Representative Ferrante, Ann-Margaret (D)
  38. Representative Fox, Gloria (D)
  39. Representative Fresolo, John (D)
  40. Representative Galvin, William (D)
  41. Representative Garballey, Sean (D)
  42. Representative Gobi, Anne (D)
  43. Representative Golden, Thomas (D)
  44. Representative Haddad, Patricia (D)
  45. Representative Harrington, Sheila (R)
  46. Representative Henriquez, Carlos (D)
  47. Representative Hill, Bradford (R)
  48. Representative Hogan, Kate (D)
  49. Representative Holmes, Russell (D)
  50. Representative Honan, Kevin (D)
  51. Representative Hunt, Randy (R)
  52. Representative Jones, Bradley (R)
  53. Representative Kafka, Louis (D)
  54. Representative Kane, Michael (D)
  55. Representative Kaufman, Jay (D)
  56. Representative Keenan, John (D)
  57. Representative Khan, Kay (D)
  58. Representative Koczera, Robert (D)
  59. Representative Kuros, Kevin (R)
  60. Representative Lawn, John (D)
  61. Representative Levy, Steven (R)
  62. Representative Lewis, Jason (D)
  63. Representative Linsky, David (D)
  64. Representative Lombardo, Marc (R)
  65. Representative Madden, Timothy (D)
  66. Representative Mahoney, John (D)
  67. Representative Mariano, Ronald (D)
  68. Representative Mark, Paul (D)
  69. Representative McMurtry, Paul (D)
  70. Representative Miceli, James (D)
  71. Representative Murphy, Kevin (D)
  72. Representative Nangle, David (D)
  73. Representative O'Connell, Shaunna (R)
  74. Representative O'Day, James (D)
  75. Representative Orrall, Keiko (R)
  76. Representative Parisella, Jerald (D)
  77. Representative Peake, Sarah (D)
  78. Representative Peisch, Alice (D)
  79. Representative Peterson, George (R)
  80. Representative Petrolati, Thomas (D)
  81. Representative Pignatelli, William (D)
  82. Representative Poirier, Elizabeth (R)
  83. Representative Provost, Denise (D)
  84. Representative Puppolo, Angelo (D)
  85. Representative Rogers, John (D)
  86. Representative Rosa, Dennis (D)
  87. Representative Ross, George (R)
  88. Representative S?nchez, Jeffrey (D)
  89. Representative Scaccia, Angelo (D)
  90. Representative Scibak, John (D)
  91. Representative Sciortino, Carl (D)
  92. Representative Smith, Stephen (D)
  93. Representative Smizik, Frank (D)
  94. Representative Smola, Todd (R)
  95. Representative Speliotis, Theodore (D)
  96. Representative Spiliotis, Joyce (D)
  97. Representative Stanley, Thomas (D)
  98. Representative Straus, William (D)
  99. Representative Sullivan, David (D)
  100. Representative Swan, Benjamin (D)
  101. Representative Timilty, Walter (D)
  102. Representative Toomey, Timothy (D)
  103. Representative Torrisi, David (D)
  104. Representative Turner, Cleon (D)
  105. Representative Vieira, David (R)
  106. Representative Walsh, Chris (D)
  107. Representative Walsh, Martin (D)
  108. Representative Walz, Martha (D)
  109. Representative Webster, Daniel (R)
  110. Representative Winslow, Daniel (R)
  111. Representative Wolf, Alice (D)
  112. Representative Wong, Donald (R)
  113. Senator Brewer, Stephen (D)
  114. Senator Brownsberger, William (D)
  115. Senator Candaras, Gale (D)
  116. Senator Clark, Katherine (D)
  117. Senator Creem, Cynthia (D)
  118. Senator Downing, Benjamin (D)
  119. Senator Fargo, Susan (D)
  120. Senator Flanagan, Jennifer (D)
  121. Senator Hedlund, Robert (R)
  122. Senator Knapik, Michael (R)
  123. Senator McGee, Thomas (D)
  124. Senator Moore, Michael (D)
  125. Senator Moore, Richard (D)
  126. Senator Ross, Richard (R)
  127. Senator Spilka, Karen (D)

 

As a society, we must learn to protect the victim and not the offending abuser. "Alone we are weak ... Together we are strong.”

 

For More Information:

MASO ~ Massachusetts Survivors Outreach

Research ~ Advocating ~ Holistic Healing For Victims of Abuse

617-870-1040

Email: maso.ma.dv@gmail.com

Website: www.masso.webs.com

Facebook: http/www.facebook.com/MassachusettsSurvivorsOutreach

 

 

RESOURCES AND REFERENCES

 * Data compiled from Jane Doe Inc., the Massachusetts Department of Public Health, and the 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey.

** Centers of Disease Control 2003

*** Swanberg and Logan 2005

**** DISCLAIMER (MASO does not and cannot make endorsements of candidates, we nonetheless work closely with other abuse organizations as well as various branches of government at the state and federal levels) Information supplied by Protect Mass Children.

Breaking The Generational Cycle of Abuse

Posted by MASO on August 7, 2012 at 7:25 AM Comments comments (4)


By: MASO Staff

It breaks my heart to read and hear so many stories of victims of abuse whether child abuse, domestic abuse, sex abuse, or systemic abuse. It is difficult enough to hear the stories of a child victimized by a perpetrator and the desperate pleas for help. It is even more devastating to witness the parent who was a victim themself either discredit their child's abuse or makes attempts to normalize it.

 

I had a talk the other day with a teenager whose friend was sexually abused. As a direct result of the child reporting the abuse, her friend’s family disowned her and this young girl is facing "the system" alone. Granted the perpetrator is facing the courts and a family member in law enforcement faces termination for failing to report. However, to the victim, it pales in comparison to the feelings of abandonment of the unsupportive family to this child victim.

 

When I mentioned the importance of a support system and a clear pathway to healing, she said "she doesn't want it" because the mother who was sexually abused too by someone in the same family disowned her. She just wants it over. Unfortunately, it will not be over, until those other things are matched. Even when the “system” is done, there usually remains an emptiness unless true healing is obtained. It is very disheartening to hear such stories.

 

My words to the children out there who are being abused, you have nothing to hide. You have nothing to be ashamed about. The person or persons who victimized and/or violated you are the ones who need to be held accountable. Not you. There are people out there who do care about you … who want to be there for you … who want to help you heal … and in my opinion, are angels on earth. Have faith and trust in yourself when all else fails and stick to the truth. Always.

 

My words to especially those Parents who were victims of abuse yourself, you out of anyone should know the feelings of isolation and the courage to come forward despite the numerous threats made to the victim to keep quiet or else. How dare you subject your own children to the same fate. You claim you got over it. Clearly not, because your child desperately needs you yet you abandoned them.

 

Please .... for your sake as well as your child .... love them ... support them ... BE their rock .... BE the person you needed at your time of need that was not there. By helping your child heal, you help break the cycle of abuse. You help save your future grandchildren from going through the same experiences and fate. Have the courage if not for yourself, but for your future generations to come.

 

God knows how difficult life may have been for you and the horrible experiences you endured. It is ok to cry. It is ok to feel the pain. It is ok to say what happened to you was wrong. It is ok to grieve. It is ok to finally have enough and move past it. Then let go and let God. Please do not make your child suffer the same fate. Please do not tell your child get over it, because you turned out fine. If that were true, your child would not be alone going through the pain of being violated and re-victimized by the very people who were supposed to keep them safe.

 

You cannot change what you cannot acknowledge. Talking and truly healing from your own abuses you endured in the past is a start. Confronting your abuser in an appropriate manner with the help of a professional can help you release the invisible ties that bind you. Then BE the one light in the darkness your child needs. Do not make them go through this alone. Remember, when you were in their shoes, how desperate you felt just to have someone believe you without judging or condemning you.

 

Finally, to the parent who supports your child regardless of the claims, may you continue to shine brightly in the world as a pillar of strength to all around you. May the rest of the world stand by you and flock to your side. May you find the voice to be one that breaks the silence. May the truth prevail. May true justice be served and true healing begin.

 

As a society, we must learn to protect the victim and not the offending abuser. "Alone we are weak ... Together we are strong.”

 

For More Information:

MASO ~ Massachusetts Survivors Outreach

Research ~ Advocating ~ Holistic Healing For Victims of Abuse

617-870-1040

Email: maso.ma.dv@gmail.com

Website: www.masso.webs.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/MassachusettsSurvivorsOutreach

Call the Governor and ask him to support legislation that PROTECTS our children and not REPEAT offenders. 617.725.4005.

Posted by MASO on July 31, 2012 at 8:05 AM Comments comments (0)

PLEASE CALL THE GOVERNOR's OFFICE TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Tell Governor Deval Patrick to stop playing games with our children's lives. ... We do NOT want more future Melissa's Bills added because he chose to protect REPEAT offenders and pedophiles. How many more children have to maimed, abused, or killed for protections to be put in place for them.?

 

To oppose bills like Melissa's Bill so he can give judges MORE "discretion"?

 

We have seen what "judicial discretion" has done for victims of abuse in family courts and now he wants it in criminal courts? .... It has allowed victims to continue to be abused by the very system designed to protect them at an escalating epidemic unprecedented cost to Massachusetts’s taxpayers.

 

Reported child abuse has doubled in Massachusetts since he became Governor. Who is Deval protecting? Victims or abusers?

Call the Governor's office and ask him to support legislation that PROTECTS our citizens and children and not the offenders. 617.725.4005.

 

For more information about MASO and the research we are currently conducting on domestic abuse in the legal system, health care system as well the socioeconomic impacts by failing to stop abuse, please visit our website at http://www.masso.webs.com or our facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/MassachusettsSurvivorsOutreach

13 Families Violated by ONE Massachusetts Family Court Judge and growing

Posted by MASO on September 10, 2011 at 3:40 PM Comments comments (0)

Help us help you ... Please take our Massachusetts Protective Parent Survey


Right now there have been 13 families that have come forward desperately seeking help and for justice.  In Massachusetts, the system is failing to protect mothers and children from abuse and corruption is widespread.


Why 13? Why not? There are many many more cases but I do not have their information. Some are too afraid. Some we don’t know. There is NO transparency in the Massachusetts family courts with certain judges granting custody to well documented abusers - judges who abuse discretion, abuse their power for personal agenda and for abusers to continue their domestic abuse by proxy and commit moral turpitude8. I am sure with an audit or investigation, you will find thousands of victims.


Why 13?  They are cases that came to us and fell in our lap. ALL share close similarities that reflect patterns of a systemic bias against victims of abuse. There are so many more cases in Massachusetts in general, but because there is NO transparency in family court, not to mention the repercussions to our own families we have endured as a result of the little information we have gathered so far.

 

Here is a bullet outline of what is happening in Massachusetts to hopefully make it easier to understand.  Abusers have a canny way of muddying the waters so the average person, can't see what is in front of them:

What do these cases share?

  • About The judge
  • Other Massachusetts Facts
  • Why me? 
  • How I got involved
  • About me outside my case
  • Resources and More Information

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Massachusetts Protective Parents Survey

Posted by MASO on September 10, 2011 at 3:25 PM Comments comments (0)

You are invited to participate in a study of "protective parents," that is, parents who have encountered difficulties in child custody cases after attempting to protect their children from abuse.

 

There is evidence of an increase in negative labeling of parents who report child abuse or domestic violence.  Several high profile cases have led to increased public attention to this problem, and debates have erupted between groups supporting alleged perpetrators of abuse, and groups supporting the reporting parents.

 

This questionnaire is part of a national survey by M.A.S.S.O.  The goal of the study is to document and explore the phenomenon of parents attempting to protect their children.  The survey includes a range of allegations; a variety of types of expert examinations, diagnoses and testimony;  responses by family court and other agencies; and outcomes for the children.

 

Your participation will help make this study a success.  Your participation is completely voluntary, and you may choose to complete the questionnaire either anonymously or on a confidential basis.  If you wish to remain anonymous, please exclude all personal information at the top of the survey.

 

If you are willing to include personal identifying information, this information will remain confidential, in a locked file, accessible only to the directors of the study. You may indicate at the end of the questionnaire if you are willing to be contacted to provide further information or clarification, or be included in the next phase of the study that will include a more detailed review of selected cases.  You will not be contacted unless you

give permission, and then only by the investigators of the study, as the information you provide will be held in the strictest confidence.

 

This questionnaire asks detailed questions about your custody case. The answers to all questions are voluntary and you may discontinue completion of the questionnaire if you find recalling the information to be too emotionally distressing.  If you wish to discuss feelings that may arise during completion of the survey with a support person, you may contact us through Facebook.

 

Thank you for your assistance in this important study.

Please visit Facebook to complete the study or click here to take it directly. Please have your court information such as docket number handy.  Thank you.

Massachusetts Failing Victims of Abuse

Posted by MASO on September 10, 2011 at 3:05 PM Comments comments (0)

This blog will highlight various issues in Massachusetts and the way the state handles domestic abuse ultimately failing to protect the littlest of voices - our children. Issues include Family Court or with state agencies such as Department of Children and Families. We will also highlight success strategies, news highlights, research, and healing for abuse victims as well.

MOTTO: "Alone we are weak ... Together we are strong." - M.A.S.O. -

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